“Everybody else needs mirrors to remind themselves who they are. You’re no different.” – Jonathan Nolan

Q: What do I see in the mirror that I hope nobody else sees?

2.2 What would I not like people to know about me?

Tom’s Reflection on This Question

This goes to the heart of being authentic. It does not mean we are going to tell our clients or indeed anyone else what we see in the mirror, but it is an invitation to bring what we see in the mirror closer to what we show others.

The more we have to hide so as to protect the image we are portraying, the harder it is to be fully present with others. This is absolutely key on our coaching journey.

Why not make looking in the mirror (in some form) a part of your daily routine?

Ask yourself:

  • What am I seeing that I am not proud of?
  • What might I do about it?

Always remember that every day is a fresh start, so we have the option of being someone different today. Feeling we need to be consistent with yesterday is simply a prison of our own making.

Programme Overview

I have the privilege of being part of an amazing peer-support group that meets every two weeks with one purpose: “to support our development as coaches!”

And yet, as we grow as coaches, we are also called on to do an incredible amount of inner work. Our mission has thus evolved to be: “to support each other as humans and as friends!”

The accompanying content was developed to support this process and has served as inspiration. The hope is that this content may inspire other coaches to set up their own peer-support groups or that it may serve in some other fashion. It is not intended to be the last word on anything!