Imagine there are 3 chairs in the room: A, B and C

A: The chair you’re sitting in representing where you are now.

C: Your vision. Where you would like to be in the future.

B: Obstacles. Are there obstacles to getting to C? What permission do you need to sit in that chair?

* Inspired by Dr. David Drake from the Moment Institute:

What Are the Obstacles to My Growth?

Tom’s Reflections on This Question

Obstacles feel inevitable. The world can never give us exactly what we want. There are thus times when we are invited to change track and take another path.

There are also times when we create obstacles for ourselves. Where we plant big rocks on the road and go up so close that we can’t see any way around them.

This beautifully simple exercise (you just need the 3 chairs) invites us to become one with the obstacles and find the questions that need answering before we can remove the chair at B.

For example:

  • Do I feel I need permission from someone to get to C?
  • From a parent who may be disappointed we are taking a particular path?
  • A self who feels the path isn’t safe?
  • Part of us who doubts we have what it takes?
  • An identity who isn’t comfortable with what we are leaving behind?
  • The values with which we were raised?

Each of us needs to find our own questions.

Programme Overview

The Curious Leaders programme is designed to foster a deep sense of curiosity about who you are as a person and as a leader. It challenges you to reflect on what you can do each day to become a more effective leader. The premise is that before we can truly lead others, we first need to lead ourselves.

It thus ultimately starts with self-leadership. This is about building a practice of reflection and action whereby we become increasingly curious about how our thinking is impacting our actions. This is the first step in building a world in which curiosity shapes leadership.

In this world, leaders aren’t boxed in by traditional thinking or established playbooks. They are open to fresh ideas and diverse perspectives, fostering a culture of exploration and learning. In truth, nurturing curiosity in leadership is essential if we are to address the key challenges of the 21st century.

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