No is a complete answer!!

Invitation to discuss. What does this bring up for me?

For example, when responding to requests, do you consider not only the consequences of saying No but also the consequences of saying Yes?

What Is My Relationship With No?

Tom’s Reflections on These Questions

This comes up constantly in my work. The key point is that saying Yes to one activity actually means saying No to an infinite number of alternatives. Despite all the talk about multitasking, we can fundamentally only be in one place in any particular moment.

It is therefore important to sharpen your pen and say No to absolutely everything that won’t make a difference. That won’t have an impact on what it is you are trying to accomplish. This means saying No to pretty much everything.

The process of saying No – assuming you take a moment to honestly reflect on the option – also allows you to further clarify your vision around how you want to live together but also what you are building towards.

For example, if you get a meeting invite, ask yourself:

What else might I be doing that will have a greater impact today? In a month? In a year?

This can be tricky because it truly depends on what it is you and your organisation want to accomplish. And yet, not going to the meeting and having nothing on your calendar may be of much greater benefit. Busyness does not necessarily offer a pathway to accomplishment.

Programme Overview

The Curious Leaders programme is designed to foster a deep sense of curiosity about who you are as a person and as a leader. It challenges you to reflect on what you can do each day to become a more effective leader. The premise is that before we can truly lead others, we first need to lead ourselves.

It thus ultimately starts with self-leadership. This is about building a practice of reflection and action whereby we become increasingly curious about how our thinking is impacting our actions. This is the first step in building a world in which curiosity shapes leadership.

In this world, leaders aren’t boxed in by traditional thinking or established playbooks. They are open to fresh ideas and diverse perspectives, fostering a culture of exploration and learning. In truth, nurturing curiosity in leadership is essential if we are to address the key challenges of the 21st century.

How Might Tom Help?

  1. My first invitation is to take maximum advantage of the free content on this site, including signing up for my newsletter.
  2. As you are reading this, you are clearly on a fascinating journey. If you feel you would benefit from us doing some work together on some aspect of your journey, please explore this page: Thriving Together!

  3. I also endeavour to answer every email so if you have any queries do reach out.