“Ah why did I not pay attention when they were building the walls.
But I never heard any noise or sound of builders.
Imperceptibly they shut me from the outside world.”
‘Walls’ by Constantine Cavafy
Q: What is keeping me in?
Q: And what am I keeping out?
Tom’s Reflection on These Questions
It is curious but every time I read this quote I think of keeping myself safe from the outside world. For me, walls tend to imply safety. And yet, they equally mean isolation. The poet is reminding us that in trying to keep ourselves safe we may well be cutting ourselves off from the world.
As a student of Zen, I am constantly reminded of the fact that thinking “in here” and “out there” is not helpful. We are all truly connected and depend on each other for all forms of sustenance.
The invitation then is to ask yourself how you might be cutting yourself off from others, how you might think you are building ramparts but may in truth be building a tomb.
I have the privilege of being part of an amazing peer-support group that meets every two weeks with one purpose: “to support our development as coaches!”
And yet, as we grow as coaches, we are also called on to do an incredible amount of inner work. Our mission has thus evolved to be: “to support each other as humans and as friends!”
The accompanying content was developed to support this process and has served as inspiration. The hope is that this content may inspire other coaches to set up their own peer-support groups or that it may serve in some other fashion. It is not intended to be the last word on anything!
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