#175 What is Beyond My Control?
#175 What is Beyond My Control?
In truth, very little is within our control, meaning most everything is beyond our control. Truly accepting this can be liberating because it means we can focus on the small areas in which we can make an impact.

 

To make it more real I like to view life and work as a pyramid:

Control: This is very small for a reason. Just ask yourself, what do I truly control? We may largely control what we do today and where we go and yet beyond ourselves our power diminishes rapidly. Any sense of control is also likely temporary with much effort being required to maintain it. Given that, what are the upsides and downsides of control?

Sphere of Influence: This is where events are not fully within our control but can perhaps be managed or at least influenced.

Beyond My Control: In truth, the bottom of the pyramid is almost infinite because virtually everything is beyond our control. This is not intended to depress us by bringing to light how powerless we are. Rather, it has the potential to liberate us by freeing us from worrying about things over which we have no control.

Questions in the Image:

  • What is beyond my control?
  • How do I feel about that?
  • How might I free myself of it?

Want to Read More Around This Topic?

The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (link to Amazon.co.uk). This book delves into Adlerian psychology and talks extensively about control, influence and acceptance. It offers some different perspectives so, regardless of whether you agree with the views and theories explored, the book will likely expand your understanding of yourself.

Nurturing Curiosity – Daily Practice: This is part of the Nurturing Curiosity series of tools, insights and questions designed to help nurture curiosity as part of our daily practice. In point of fact, every interaction we have is an opportunity to question what we are observing and how we and others are seeing the world. Also remember that questions come in many forms throughout our day – a busy day ahead prompts many questions as to how I planned my day. What do I truly want to accomplish today? How is each event contributing to my vision? What might I learn?

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