What do you not want to accept?
What do you not want to face?

In short, what have you been ignoring and yet is obvious in this moment?


These deceptively simple questions only ask that we be honest with ourselves. To take a moment out to notice what is staring us in the face.

We all have parts of our lives at home or at work that we don’t examine too closely. In many instances, we simply don’t stop long enough to contemplate what is going on. In others, doing so may require us to deal with uncomfortable facts.

And yet, to get to any new destination it helps to know where we are now. The invitation is thus to keep this question with you at all times:

What is obvious now?

It is only when we allow ourselves to see what is in front of us that we get to ask: What am I going to do about this? What now?

Questions in the Image:

  • What is obvious now?
  • What do I not want to accept?
  • What do I not want to face?

Want to Read More Around This Topic?

A More Beautiful Question: The Power of Inquiry to Spark Breakthrough Ideas by Warren Berger (link to Amazon.co.uk). This book delves into the importance of questioning in life and work, exploring how the most creative, successful people tend to be expert questioners. It offers practical insights on how to cultivate the art of asking more and more effective questions.

Nurturing Curiosity – Daily Practice: This is part of the Nurturing Curiosity series of tools, insights and questions designed to help nurture curiosity as part of our daily practice. In point of fact, every interaction we have is an opportunity to question what we are observing and how we and others are seeing the world. Also remember that questions come in many forms throughout our day. The trick is noticing them. This question of “What is obvious now?” is deceptively powerful but only if we give it a little space in which to do its magic. Asking myself this question now, a couple of things come to mind – none of which are a surprise and yet are things that I truly need to address.

About Tom O’Leary

My mission is to help others think differently – meaning more broadly and deeply – and thereby make better decisions. The key to thinking differently lies in our curiosity.

The more we question, the more possible answers we uncover, and the more we expand what we thought possible. Life has taught me that possibility lies not so much in seeking answers but in learning to ask better questions – the ones that help prioritise what is truly essential.

And yet, in a culture obsessed with efficiency and productivity, the paradox is that much energy and resources are wasted by a bias towards action over contemplation. If you are answering the wrong question, it doesn’t matter how ‘hard’ you work, you are still answering the wrong question.

That is why I am a big advocate of nurturing curiosity and innovative thinking at all ages, particularly amongst leaders because of the impact they have on us all. In my vision, leaders aren’t boxed in by traditional thinking or established playbooks. They are curious, open to fresh ideas and diverse perspectives, fostering a culture of exploration and learning.

What Thoughts Would You Like to Share?

I welcome your thoughts, feedback, or personal experiences related to these questions or any insights they may have sparked.