#208 What would make this conversation valuable?

We don’t always set the proper intentions for conversations or communicate properly to others our purpose behind a particular conversation. This question is thus an opportunity to truly focus on the outcome and to get to the heart of the matter. In a sense this question is another way of saying “Why are we here?” If you can’t properly answer this question, then perhaps you might be better off doing something different.

I use this question in two ways. Firstly, by asking a client at the start of a conversation what would make it truly valuable for them. It tends to focus the conversation and kickstart the process of working towards the key issues on their mind that day.

I also use it as a means of setting my intention for a conversation. In essence:

  • What is it I would like to get out of this conversation?
  • Or perhaps, what would I like this conversation to accomplish?

The simple fact is that, at least for planned conversations (i.e., meetings, catch-ups…), there is a reason for having the conversation and there are likely some desired outcomes. The suggestion is to get them out into the air in some form so that your intention for the conversation is crystal clear in your mind. This will make for better outcomes.

Questions in the Image:

  • What would make this conversation valuable?
  • What is it I feel I need to know?
  • What questions need to be asked?
  • What needs to be said?

Want to Read More Around This Topic?

Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time by Susan Scott (link to Amazon.co.uk). This book focuses on the importance of having open, authentic, and effective conversations in both professional and personal settings. The author presents techniques and principles for engaging in meaningful conversations that can lead to improved relationships, increased understanding and better results.

Nurturing Curiosity – Daily Practice: This is part of the Nurturing Curiosity series of tools, insights and questions designed to help nurture curiosity as part of our daily practice. In point of fact, every interaction we have is an opportunity to question what we are observing and how we and others are seeing the world. Also remember that questions come in many forms throughout our day – a flowering apple tree might be an opportunity to ask “Where am I flowering and need care?” A photo of dead parents be inspiration for “How am I honouring their memory?” or indeed “What sort of ancestor will I be?” And some questions come unbidden with no obvious source of inspiration like this one just did – “How might I surprise and delight my clients?

About Tom O’Leary

I coach, mentor and teach leaders who are shaping a brighter future.

Leadership can be lonely, the challenges daunting, and the workload overwhelming. I help leaders feel heard, gain clarity, take action, build confidence and thrive! Leaders matter. Their work matters. We need them at their best!

The first step? Becoming more curious. I see curiosity as the key, allowing us to unlock deep insights that directly enhance our ability to think, act and lead.

This means spending time contemplating what might be possible so that when we take action, we can bring all our energy and power to bear.

How Might Tom Help?

  1. My first invitation is to take maximum advantage of the free content on this site, including signing up for my newsletter.

  2. As you are reading this, you are clearly on a fascinating journey. If you feel you would benefit from us doing some work together on some aspect of your journey, please explore this page: Thriving Together!
  3. I also endeavour to answer every email so if you have any queries do reach out.